Perhaps nowhere else can our belief that being disturbed, is a sufficient goal be seen more clearly than in our romantic relationships. The time and energy we spend vainly attempting to convince our partner that we are right is staggering. Even though arguing is a cooperative venture, few couples make a comparable effort, or any effort at all, to move their relationship past an issue. What they care about most is how tellingly they present their side. For most of the hundreds of thousands of couples I have spoke with or have not spoke with each year, the disturbances between them are far more meaningful than their friendship.
They speak of how upset they are, or how their upset is not being "honored," or how their partner gets to upset or not upset or not upset enough, or how their not allowed to be upset in the way they wish. Much of their time away from each other is spent obsessing on their upsets. Divorce rates are up higher than ever! The grass is greener mentality is a false sense of receiving something better or more exciting! Wake up! You will receive what you put into it. GUARANTEED!!
They read books, magazines, and watch talk shows that dissect various kinds of upsets. The friends and relatives with whom they discuss all this invariably add upset on top of upset. The generally preferred solution to relationship turmoil is to "bail."
They build a detailed case against their former partner and tell it to everyone,as if nourishing judgments, grievances, and grudges were a path to mental health and freedom. All they do is sharpen and plunge the damaging thoughts as deeply into their psyches as they can. As a result, they carry very powerful thoughts about what was done to them into their next relationship. Is your parachute on and your ready to bail? Or have you already done so? Let me help you move forward with you and your relationship!
Together we can customize a plan to help you both move forward in a healthy, loving, caring, & respectful relationship.
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